Faith is Built in the Heart, Filter the Ego

The Qur’an isn’t just a guidebook of do’s and don’ts — it’s divinely designed to heal and confront the most dangerous enemy we all face in life: the ego.
The real battle isn’t outside of us; it’s within. And that battle is what makes the Qur’an profoundly relevant both for the one who suffers from narcissistic abuse and the one who becomes the abuser.

At its root, narcissistic abuse is an unchecked ego: the part of us that insists on being right, being worshipped, being superior — no matter who it harms. But the Qur’an pierces through this self-made illusion, reminding us that our worth and judgment don’t belong to us, but to Allah ﷻ alone.

The Qur’an calls us to purify our intentions for one another — to see each other not as threats or trophies, but as fellow souls created by the same Lord. Because without this spiritual humility, the only thing left to guide us is our ego — and that’s exactly where Iblis succeeded: planting seeds of arrogance, self-worship, and envy that bloom into division, cruelty, and denial of truth.

This denial isn’t harmless. It becomes a self-made veil: a delusion that offers just enough false security for someone to believe that their version of the truth is reality — even when Allah makes the actual truth painfully clear.
It starts with a single thought. But what matters is how we entertain it: whether we allow it to grow into stubbornness, jealousy, or mockery — or whether we face it, check it, and return to sincerity.

If we choose to bruise, dismiss, or disrespect the truth — we’re not just harming others. We’re setting ourselves up for future lessons Allah sends our way, lessons meant to humble and correct us. 

Allah even tells us that our very bodies will testify against us on the Day of Judgment — a live witness to every intention, word, and action. This is a reminder that nothing is hidden, even what we try to bury under pride or self-justification.

In Surah Fussilat (41:25), Allah says:

“And We have appointed for them (devils) intimate companions (in this world), who made fair‑seeming to them what was before them and what was behind them; and the Word (torment) is justified against them among generations of jinn and mankind that have passed away before them; verily they were ever disbelievers.”

This verse warns us that arrogance and denial don’t happen by accident — they become reinforced over time by unseen forces, eventually leading us to follow the path of Satan without even realizing it.

And remember: the Qur’an wasn’t revealed by coincidence or human timing. Allah chose the exact moment in human history to seal the message — giving us the final, preserved manual on how to return our souls to Him in purity.

That is why the Qur’an stands as the ultimate cure for narcissistic abuse:
✨ For the beholder, it’s a shield that helps them see through manipulation and reclaim their dignity.
✨ For the perpetrator, it’s a mirror exposing the disease of the ego, offering a path to repentance before it’s too late.

Conveying this message — that the Holy Qur’an is Allah’s final message for all of mankind, given in respect of our differences — has itself been one of the greatest challenges.

Because ultimately, some egos perceive it as a direct confrontation of their own existence. They see my stance as if I’m trying to wield control, seek validation, or chase fame — or they jump to the idea that I’m trying to force them to convert.

In reality, my approach has always been about conveying insight that is confirmed — evidence that already exists if only the heart would allow the eyes to see it. Yet the delicate delivery of a raw truth will always be met with argument, disagreement, and rejection.

It’s not surprising when we remember Allah’s first warning to humanity. The very first lesson revealed to us was about how Satan hypnotized the first of His creation into trusting that eating from the tree would be harmless — even though Allah, with His supreme wisdom, had advised against it. That single act was not just disobedience, but the seed of arrogance and self-justification — the ego that says, “I know better than what Allah is guiding.”

And in this sensitive reality, Allah has entrusted me — like anyone striving sincerely — to renew the concept of faith within the delicate dimensions of our shared human story: a story of family, temptation, and divine mercy.

Yet Satan himself is still casting out his nets, fishing for hosts who will actively sync with his influence — turning them against Allah’s message. And what does he use?
✨ Their temperaments.
✨ Their fears.
✨ And their inherent intentions that lean more toward protecting the ego than embracing the truth.

That’s the real battlefield: it’s not between me and them; it’s between the purified truth that Allah makes evident, and the ego’s desperate fight to deny it.
And the Qur’an was revealed to break that illusion — to heal both the abused and the abuser — and to remind every soul that the final return is to Allah alone.

The debate is always going to be that there is no real reason for a debate — and that’s exactly what Allah confirms in 27:93 (Muhsin Khan):

“And say: ‘All the praises and thanks be to Allah. He will show you His signs, and you shall recognize them. And your Lord is not unaware of what you do.’”

Because when we filter out the ego, we’ve done the actual work of integrity — and that integrity will never fail us or mislead us away from the truth.

My husband’s arrest, which happened before mine, is also part of this family trial. This is dually focused on both of us, and through it I’m proving that I’ve never been his enemy. His arrest didn’t get pursued the same way mine did — because Allah was testing the authorities themselves: to see how willing they were to uphold His message, to act with the proper moral code that’s already instilled in the American justice system.

Or would they choose instead to entertain the vulnerability of my indirect cousin’s case being their ally in authority, protect the cause of corruption, keep me on the backburner, honor the crime — and then burn me for the finisher?

In the end, the debate was never really needed — the problem has always been the ego that refuses to see it and it will always try to deny, divide, and destroy. But the Qur’an will always call us to remember, unite, and heal. 

In Surah Al-Ahzab (33:56), Allah beautifully shows His immense regard for Prophet Muhammad ﷺ by declaring that He and His angels send blessings upon the Prophet. This isn’t just an honor for the Prophet alone — it’s also a sign for us to understand the importance of loving, respecting, and sincerely following the Prophet’s Sunnah and guidance.

It also reflects something deeper: that Allah, in His mercy, will show similar regard to all of His servants who strive to clarify and purify their souls in respect to the Qur’an and the Prophet’s path. By aligning ourselves sincerely with this guidance, we open ourselves to His divine favor and protection.

Then, in verse 57, Allah warns that mocking, harming, or regressing from what the Prophet brought — and from the truth Allah makes evident — is ultimately a destructive and fruitless choice. It brings no real benefit and only distances the heart from faith and clarity.

33:56
“Allah sends His Salât (Graces, Honours, Blessings, Mercy) on the Prophet (Muhammad ﷺ) and also His angels (ask Allah to bless and forgive him). O you who believe! Send your Salât on (ask Allah to bless) him (Muhammad ﷺ), and (you should) greet (salute) him with the Islamic way of greeting (salutation i.e. As-Salâmu ‘Alaikum).”

33:57
“Verily, those who annoy Allah and His Messenger (Muhammad ﷺ) Allah has cursed them in this world, and in the Hereafter, and has prepared for them a humiliating torment.”

Together, these verses remind us that following the Prophet ﷺ isn’t just about ritual — it’s about transforming our inner state, rooting out arrogance, and humbling ourselves before the truth Allah made clear, so we can truly receive His blessings.